About Being an Exeter Parent
How do parents get involved?
Exeter parents can look forward to Parents' Weekend, Exeter's Parent website, and events hosted by their local Exeter Associations from Paris to Hong Kong to Chicago. Parents are also encouraged to visit and to attend sporting events, performances and special on-campus programs (schedules are posted online). You can get the "daily bulletin" online, too, for updates on campus goings-on, and you can also subscribe to The Exonian. Check the parents gateway...
How do we keep in touch?
Every student has a personal email address and a room phone number. If you ever have any questions, you should feel free to call or email your child's adviser.
Who's looking out for my child?
A lot of people—beginning most importantly with your child's adviser, who usually lives in the same dorm—are interested in your child's welfare and success. Teachers and coaches, deans and administrators, student listeners and proctors, classmates and friends are with your child every day. The librarians will know if your child falls asleep instead of studying. The dining hall staff will notice what he or she eats. Counselors, trainers, the school's doctor—if there's a problem, they will be on it! Contact Exeter... Learn more about our support services....
What if my child needs more support?
Exeter's Counseling Department offers students a private place to discuss concerns. Our goal, whether in a counselor's private office, in the classroom or in the dorm, is to help students think about the choices they make. We want them to understand those choices and how they contribute to a healthy, happy, connected life.
What about drugs and alcohol?
Drugs and alcohol use is forbidden on campus in large part because they interfere with healthy adolescent development. Through our Health and Human Development courses, Assembly programs, student listener and proctor training workshops, dorm discussions, small group discussions and our individual work with students, we work to prevent drug misuse and abuse through education, early identification and intervention.
Student health and well-being is always our primary focus, but using, misusing, possessing, distributing, purchasing, or selling alcohol or other drugs are major disciplinary offenses. Check the E Book on the Parents Gateway for more rules...
How does Exeter support spiritual development?
In true Exeter fashion, we have ongoing conversations about the roles and traditions of religious practice on our campus in multiple contexts—in classes, dorms and over dinner with friends. At the core of these discussions is a distinction between the religious and the spiritual; while many people are engaged in spiritual exploration, not everyone belongs to the same or even any religious tradition. As an institution, Exeter seeks to provide support for students' spiritual development regardless of any particular religious tradition.
But my child is doing so well, does it make sense to switch schools?
Choosing Exeter is, perhaps, hardest for those students who are already stars in their schools. But young students can quickly outgrow the available challenges. At Exeter, we are able to offer academic, social and personal opportunities that go beyond what is available in many schools. Please visit us and see...
Isn't boarding school elitist?
Exeter's founders did not design the Academy for the social elite— Exeter has always been for "youth from every quarter." Overwhelmingly, the attitude of the Exeter community is that it is good fortune that brings us here, not entitlement. More about who studies at Exeter...
How do I know if my child is ready for this?
That's one of the questions the Faculty Admissions Committee looks at when we meet to review his or her application: Is this person ready for Exeter's challenges and community life? If we admit your child, we're confident that he or she is ready.
My child may be ready for this, but we're not!
At Exeter, we understand that sometimes boarding can be tougher on the parents than on the student. There are some moms and dads out there who have spent years driving to soccer practice, volunteering at schools and clapping at performances. The long conversations in the car, marking heights against the wall and seeing all the ways that kid grow up—it's not easy to step aside. Adolescence is a period of defining a self apart from one's parents, and for many teens, it can be a period of parental conflict. It may help to know that many students report that they become closer to their families by living apart from them at this time in their development. And, by stepping back a little, many parents are able to appreciate more deeply the young adults their children become.